Be Kind to Yourself, Too

Make a commitment to refrain from negative self-talk. Be kind to yourself and focus on the traits you like, rather than the ones you don’t. The extremely wise Dawna Markova, the author of a favorite book, I Will Not Die an Unlived Life, says “Your soul remembers when you put yourself down; it imprints upon you. Never do this. Self-compassion is key to a life well-lived.”

Be Kind to Yourself, Too

    Make a commitment to refrain from negative self-talk. Be kind to yourself and focus on the traits you like, rather than the ones you don’t. The extremely wise Dawna Markova, the author of a favorite book, I Will Not Die an Unlived Life, says “Your soul remembers when you put yourself down; it imprints upon you. Never do this. Self-compassion is key to a life well-lived.”

Be Kind to Yourself, Too

    Make a commitment to refrain from negative self-talk. Be kind to yourself and focus on the traits you like, rather than the ones you don't. The extremely wise Dawna Markova, the author of a favorite book, I Will Not Die an Unlived Life, says, "Your soul remembers when you put yourself down; it imprints upon you. Never do this. Self-compassion is key to a life well-lived."

National Solo Vacation Day

     With the pandemic, it can be hard to plan a vacation, even if it's by yourself. But why not plan ahead?! Pick a town, state, or country that you always wanted to go to and go there, alone! Think about it: you can make your own schedule, wake up when you want, stay out, stay in, and eat what you feel like. It can be your reward for quarantine since last year! So start planning your chance at making a memory that will last you a lifetime and add to the story of your life.

Practice Random Acts of Kindness (and Deliberate Ones, Too)

     Random Acts of Kindness Day is always the week of Valentine's Day. I love to hear how this meaningful movement has touched others' lives. Artist and author Peg Conley shares her thoughts:

    You've seen those bumper stickers, the ones encouraging you to commit "random acts of kindness?" What they can't tell you in that little space is how performing those acts can be a way of transforming yourself. When you begin to focus on extending kindness towards others, you'll feel more kindness coming towards you. Not only will you make someone else's day better, you'll be surprised how well yours improves. It's rather like the "Secret Santa" gift exchange that many offices and families adopt during the weeks leading up to Christmas. There is delight when you do something for another while keeping your identity a secret. When you watch a person receiving a surprise gift, you see their face change, the eyes open wide with delight, a smile bursting into a grin, and laughter erupting. They appear to feel sheer joy at the unexpected. The old adage is true: "It is giving that we receive." The other part of the quote, which is by a San Franciscan writer named Anne Herbert, is often left out: "and (practice) senseless acts of beauty." I received a text the other day from a friend who had taken a picture with her phone of a sidewalk outside a coffee shop where she works in San Francisco. Someone had written "It's a beautiful day" with colored chalk on the sidewalk and adorned it with butterflies and hearts. That,, to me, is a senseless act of beauty. Think how many people walked on that sidewalk that day and smiled at the childish scrawl reminding them on the beautiful day.

    The Hebrew word mitzvah means a good deed or an act of kindness. Judaism teaches that the world is built on kindness. I recall what my Bubbe, a dear friend in Salt Lake City who was my son's first caregiver, used to tell me about the importance of doing mitzvahs. She believes in the power of doing good for another person but telling them about it. She is a perfect example of someone who practices random acts of kindness, and also one who sees and acknowledges the beauty in everyone she meets. I always feel better just by being in her presence. Entire campaigns focused on practicing random acts of kindness have sprouted up. This, along with "having an attitude of gratitude," enriches my days in many ways. There are myriad ways you can practice random acts of kindness. Don't forget to include yourself when you are doing them!

Step Up

Challenge yourself. Life is a process and throughout your years on this planet, get to know yourself better at every stage. Surprise yourself. If you go through life without trying something new, you are not doing yourself justice. Discover your true potential and maybe more than just your life will improve.

Learn the Art of Letting Go

After all, we are all human and we have a little baggage (or a lot)! Sometimes I hold in my feelings until they are like a dam about to overflow. Luckily for me, I have had the opportunity to learn from great authors like Sue Patton Thoele, Melody Beattie, and Mark Nepo that we just have to move on toward the positive.



Release any repressed anger and pain that you have been keeping inside. Allow yourself to let go of the past so that you can proceed to live in the present without worry, fear, or resentment. Remember that this isn't a one-time event, but a process. Letting go is an act of kindness for yourself. Once you can accept that life isn't always something you can predict or control, yours will eventually become more positive and joyous.

"I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow." 
-Maya Angelou